Expectations

It is not the actions of others or occurances that let us down, it is our own expectations. Let me explain. Sometimes when we want something in life, we tend to fantasize about it. We recreate scenarios in our minds of what we will do when we accomplish this goal, what we will say. Often times we create the most pristine image. The most surreal. We re-create feelings and emotions. We play out others reactions and responses. How exciting it will be. But when we reach what we have dreamed of, it often times is not what we had pictured in our minds. We are so often quick to blame the people associated with our vision. They didn't do this, they acted this way. In reality we set the bar too high for ourselves sometimes. We play it up too much in our minds. So much so that it is our own expectations that begin to let us down.

What I am proposing is to walk through life with no expectations at all. Do not go into a store expecting to find the perfect pair of pants. Do not wake up in the morning and expect to look perfect. Do not expect him to call. Do not expect others to create happy memories for you. Instead look at each day as a blessing and a new opportunity to create memories for yourself that you did not think were possible. Look at each moment as an opportunity to respond and not react. Perhaps then we can lead our own lives under the direction of our hearts and not with our minds. It's more fun that way anyway!